Apr 15, 2020
My guest this week is Kim John
Payne, a consultant, and
trainer to over 230 U.S. independent and public schools. Formerly
serving as a school counselor, adult educator, consultant,
researcher, and educator for nearly 30 years, Kim regularly gives
key-note addresses at international conferences for educators,
parents, and therapists and runs workshops and training sessions
around the world. In each role, he has been helping children,
adolescents and families explore issues such as social difficulties
with siblings and classmates, attention and behavioral issues at
home and school emotional issues such as defiance, aggression,
addiction, and low self-esteem. As a partner of the Alliance for
Childhood in Washington D.C, he has consulted for educational
associations around the world and has run a private family
counseling practice for more than 15 years.
In this episode, Kim and I
discuss the principles and impact of simplicity parenting to help
lessen stress and overwhelm within families. While many of us are
experiencing new lifestyles and schedules it is extremely important
to maintain or find a new working rhythm to your family's
day-to-day routine. Kim provides clear, effective and simple ways
parents can begin to approach and implement the best daily rhythms
for their unique family needs. To learn more about Kim John
Payne click here.
Episode Highlights
Behavior and Brain
Function
- The
demands that are children face now are entirely different than what
parents experienced in their childhood
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- Behavioral and developmental issues become
exacerbated when demanded too much off, our children need to slow
down
4 Ways To Show Children They Are
Safe
- Declutter the home
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- Start
with your space as a parent and then tackle the pantry and the
living space
- Move
into children's bedroom/toy room and declutter there
- This
signals to a child that here in our home we have space and order,
not chaos
- Keeping a daily rhythm/schedule
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- Give
children a practical schedule for them to follow
- Some
of the academic expectations for parents who are working and
schooling from home have created extreme overwhelm
- Limit
the academic time to what is necessary for each age to avoid
overwhelm
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- Structure the day to move from head to heart
activities, from cognition to creativity to action
- Giving kids the gift of boredom, with no screen
time involved
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- Out
of boredom comes self-creativity and self-motivation
- They
need this time to become creative and enter into deep creative play
which allows them to digest the world and cleanse themselves from
anxiety
- Limit
screen time and media + filtering out the adult
information
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- We
must be careful of what we say in front of our children and what we
allow them to see
- Is
this kind? Is this securing? Is it true to my values? Is it
necessary to be sad right now?
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- If
you can’t answer yes to all four, it is best not to say it at
all
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